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Shanda Scherdin's avatar

I think so often about what you said about feminism being equated with extricating ourselves from the work of the home and all the implications of that. I LOVE the book Essential Labor. I wish more people talked about these things and I want to talk about them more myself.

As a full time caretaker/home educator/parent in a pretty progressive community, I find people so often are not quite sure how to think of me. I don’t fit any of their boxes/stereotypes. I also receive comments at times like, “oh wow! Good for you! I could never do what you do. I’d lose my mind!” And while it’s couched as a compliment, I find it a bit insulting - both to me and to children.

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My older kiddos are usually up past me. It took some time for me to adjust, and to trust that they would be ok without me up with them. Giving them freedom of figure out their own boundaries with screens with me asleep was also a challenge, but we have great conversations about their bedtimes and they talk about wanting to improve their routines and ideas they have for how to help themselves get to be earlier or remember to brush their teeth etc. I’ve realized it’s all rich learning - learning about themselves, what makes them tick, figuring out screen boundaries.

With D&D, my kids played with their dad for a while, and it’s a pretty fun role-playing game - character development, working as a team and negotiating how to handle challenges in the story. It’s actually pretty awesome! (From someone who was told it was evil growing up 😂)

All your points about kids in the US and Europe are spot on. I’ve heard Europe is more kid friendly, but kid friendly is not the same as respecting children as full people. And the lack of openness to homeschooling is off-putting as well. Guess we’ll have to keep putting up with the US - sigh.

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