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Francine Lucidon's avatar

Many thanks for the important conversation. Going back more than 30 years, here is what worked for us . I needed to entirely let go of the zero sum mentality that would have our children and myself in a selfish competition. I wanted my children to get what they wanted… they seemed happiest when I was happy as well. We were not on opposite sides but part of a creative endeavor to discover “common preferences” - solutions we could all be happy with. Self sacrifice is a harmful idea and, with enough creativity and bold suggestions , each of us could get what we wanted (and this next bit is essential) … or better! Wants are not fixed, creativity saves the day!:) it’s a practice that, IMO, surpasses the limitations of politics.

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Katherine Hensman's avatar

I appreciate this! I work part time and my daughter is in part time daycare. It's not perfect and I certainly wish she didn't have to go to daycare. However, I am grateful to be able to work at a job I enjoy and have days that I am at home focused on her. Our system is failing so many of us. I definitely don't know what the solution is...

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